Friday, August 12, 2011

OVERCOMING FROM THOUGHT ATTACK

Dr. Satya Sidhartha Panda.
MBA, MJMC, CCMM, PhD
Bangalore -INDIA
Email: Satyasidharth@yahoo.com
Blog: http://www.sidharthmission.blogspot.com
OVERCOMING FROM THOUGHT ATTACK
Abstract
This paper attempts for persuade to understand how the Positive thinking is a mental attitude that admits into the mind thoughts, words and images that are conductive to growth, expansion , success and how you can overcome of your negative thoughts at your Bad Time .
Research indicates that on average, 60-80% of people, especially women, have low serotonin levels, which can lead into a downward spiral of hopelessness and despair. These negative feelings, thoughts and moods take us away from abundance and towards attracting more negative experiences. Believe me you can overcome from Thought Attack but Attitude and thoughts do not change overnight.
It is a mental attitude that expects good and favorable results. A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and a successful outcome of every situation and action. Whatever the mind expects, it finds. Not everyone accepts or believes in positive thinking. Some consider the subject as just nonsense, and others scoff at people who believe and accept it. Among the people who accept it, not many know how to use it effectively to get results. Yet, it seems that many are becoming attracted to this subject, as evidenced by the many books, lectures and courses about it. This is a subject that is gaining popularity. Negative thoughts, words and attitude bring up negative and unhappy moods and actions. When the mind is negative, poisons are released into the blood, which cause more unhappiness and negativity. This is the way to failure, frustration and disappointment. The power of thoughts is a mighty power that is always shaping our life. This shaping is usually done subconsciously, but it is possible to make the process a conscious one. Even if the idea seems strange give it a try, as you have nothing to lose, but only to gain. Ignore what others might say or think about you, if they discover that you are changing the way you think.
Key Words: mental attitude, mind thoughts, positive mind, frustration and disappointment
Introduction:
Truly, thoughts are things and powerful things .It is quite common to hear people say: "Think positive!” to someone who feels down and worried. Most people do not take these words seriously, as they do not know what they really mean, or do not consider them as useful and effective. How many people do you know, who stop to think what the power of positive thinking means?
Experts say that being a positive-minded person can help make your life easier, healthier, and longer. People who are optimistic are generally believed to be stronger than pessimists, both in psychological and physical terms. They are also known to be better equipped to cope during periods of stress. The Mayo Clinic says people with a negative outlook are more inclined to suffer from depression, more susceptible to catching colds and more likely to die of cardiovascular disease.
Psychologists estimate that we think between 60,000 - 80,000 thoughts per day and approximately 80% of those thoughts are generally negative. They also say that most of these negative thoughts are the same negative thoughts we had yesterday, last year, and 10 years ago. These negative thoughts have been developing in our subconscious for years, often stemming from childhood issues. As we age, we tend to repeat the negative thoughts we heard in our childhood and eventually replace our parents' voices with our own. Becoming more aware of your thoughts gives you the freedom needed to alter negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones.
Don't blame yourself for having negative thoughts. We live in an anxiety-provoking world filled with stories of natural disasters, wars and illness. As a result, we are constantly being bombarded with negative and fear-inducing information. It is no wonder we tend to think negatively and are worrying so much of the time.
That being said, thinking these thoughts will not make us feel better, maybe more in the majority, but no happier. By being more conscious and vigilant of our thoughts, we can learn to catch ourselves earlier on and prevent going off on a rampage of indignation. This can be achieved by stopping and asking ourselves, 'how are these thoughts going to help me lead a happier life?'
The following story helped me to understand how this Thought (power) works:
I am Sidhartha; at the time When I finished my M.B.A. and planed for job Hunt, I applied for a new job @ IBM Bangalore and It was a dream company being an MBA Graduate, but as my self-esteem was low, and I considered myself as a failure and unworthy of success, I was sure that I was not going to get the job. I had a negative attitude towards myself, and believed that the other applicants were better and more qualified than me. I manifested this attitude, due to my negative past experiences with job interviews.
My mind was filled with negative thoughts and fears concerning the job for the whole week before the job interview. I was sure I would be rejected. On the day of the interview I got up late, and to my horror I discovered that the shirt I had planned to wear was dirty, and the other one needed ironing. As it was already too late, I went out wearing a shirt full of wrinkles.
During the interview I was tense, displayed a negative attitude, worried about my shirt, and felt hungry because I did not have enough time to eat breakfast. All this distracted my mind and made it difficult for me to focus on the interview. My overall behavior made a bad impression, and consequently I materialized my fear and did not get the job.
One of my best MBA Mate applied for the same job too, but approached the matter in a different way. She was sure that she was going to get the job. During the week preceding the interview she often visualized herself making a good impression and getting the job.
In the evening before the interview She prepared the clothes She was going to wear, and went to sleep a little earlier. On day of the interview She woke up earlier than usual, and had ample time to eat breakfast, and then to arrive to the interview before the scheduled time.
She got the job because she made a good impression. She had also of course, the proper qualifications for the job, but so had me.
What do we learn from these two stories? Is there any magic employed here? No, it is all natural. When the attitude is positive we entertain pleasant feelings and constructive images, and see in our mind's eye what we really want to happen. This brings brightness to the eyes, more energy and happiness. The whole being broadcasts good will, happiness and success. Even the health is affected in a beneficial way. We walk tall and the voice is more powerful. Our body language shows the way you feel inside.
Once a negative thought enters your mind, you have to be aware of it and endeavor to replace it with a constructive one. The negative thought will try again to enter your mind, and then you have to replace it again with a positive one. It is as if there are two pictures in front of you, and you choose to look at one of them and disregard the other. Persistence will eventually teach your mind to think positively and ignore negative thoughts.
In case you feel any inner resistance when replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, do not give up, but keep looking only at the beneficial, good and happy thoughts in your mind.
It does not matter what your circumstances are at the present moment. Think positively, expect only favorable results and situations, and circumstances will change accordingly. It may take some time for the changes to take place, but eventually they do.
All of us get upset when we don't do a certain task very well. But it's no reason to be upset. If you haven't fared well in any particular subject, don't keep thinking about how bad your marks were. Instead, look forward to the next examination, and prepare well for it. Be determined to do well the next time. Be confident of doing well. If you study well, the results will show. So don't lose hope when you don't do well. Use it as an opportunity to improve yourself.
Change your negative self-talk: One way to do this is once you have identified a negative thought try to replace it with more realistic thinking rather than pessimistic thoughts. For example, instead of saying to yourself, "why does this always happen to me?" try to remember a time in your past when you had other challenges and then remember how you managed to overcome those challenges. You will feel much different if instead of saying, "Why does this always happen to me?" you replace the thought with, "Okay, it seems I have hit another bump in the road, but I know I have had worse and I am still here, so I know I can find a way to succeed with this as well." This method of focusing on the solution rather than the problem will lead you to feel empowered, rather than overwhelmed or victimized. This works for all situations, whether it is a health, financial or relationship issue.

Affirmations: Are another way to use positive statements. You need to repeat them many times, either out loud or in your mind. An affirmation should be constructed in the present tense, and should be said often. Write your affirmations on index cards or post-it notes and stick them on your keyboard, computer monitor, refrigerator, mirrors, and/or car-anywhere and everywhere you can. The more you see them, the more you'll say them to yourself and the more they will become ingrained in your mind. You also may choose to think a positive thought about yourself and repeat it when negative thoughts enter you mind. You will find a list of affirmations in the handouts.
Certain examples include:
"Today is going to be a great Day for me "
"Circumstances are what they are, but I can choose my attitude toward them."
"I love and accept myself just the way I am"
"It's never too late to change. I am improving one step at a time."
"It's ok to make mistakes. I am willing to learn from them."


The Problem with Having a Negative Bias
Confirmation Bias: The major problem with negative thinking is that human beings tend to see and hear what they believe about another even if it isn't true. In other words, what you believe about another person (positive or negative), you will find evidence of that belief in everything he or she says or does.

Self-fulfilling Prophecy: The case whereby individuals (a) have an expectation about what their partner is like, which (b) influences how they act toward their partner, which (c) causes that partner to behave in a way consistent with the individual's original expectations. People tend to live up or down to our beliefs about them.

Learned Hopelessness: When negative thinking consistently invades the relationship, it produces an environment of hopelessness and demoralization. The negatively framed partner is robbed of motivation and action.


10 tips for Overcoming from Thought Attack (Negative Thoughts.)
Recognize negative thoughts as they take shape and bury them before they take root. If you feel your mood darkening again, put a stop to these dangerous musings before you succumb to them. Rule your emotions; don't let your emotions rule you.
Hang out with people who think positive as well. This condition can be quite infectious.
Just as contagious is a negative mindset. So avoid people who tend to think negatively on a constant basis. After all, who wants to hang around naysayers all the time?
Work out and eat right. If you look good on the outside, it'll be easier to feel good on the inside, too.
De-clutter. Surround yourself only with the things you love and that make you feel good--framed family photos, favorite books, potted plants, and works of art, or whatever else that's meaningful to you.
If people tell you you can't do something, take that as a challenge and prove them wrong. Chances are, they themselves can't do it or are too afraid to try and are simply bitter about it. If you show them it can be done after all, maybe they'll even be inspired by your success. You can be a living tip for positive thinking to them.
Just when you're about to blow your top for all the seeming misfortunes that befall you, remind yourself of all your blessings instead. This practice can be very sobering, indeed.
Be a volunteer or get involved in charity work. Not only will you realize the sheer number of people who have bigger problems than you do, but there is also such an emotional and even spiritual high to be experienced in helping others.
De-stress. You're more likely to be cranky if you're perpetually stressed out. So get away from it all and recharge.
Keep it up. Getting started is easy. It's the maintenance that's tricky. Make a habit out of thinking positively till it becomes an indelible part of who you are.
Follow these 10 tips for think positive, make your thoughts in to your positive strength and be successful in your search for a happier and healthy thinking and healthy acting.

Conclusion:
All of us affect, in one way or another, the people we meet. This happens instinctively and on a subconscious level, through thoughts and feelings transference, and through body language. People sense our aura and are affected by our thoughts, and vice versa. Is it any wonder that we want to be around positive people and avoid negative ones? People are more disposed to help us if we are positive, and they dislike and avoid anyone broadcasting negativity.
Negative thoughts, words and attitude bring up negative and unhappy moods and actions. When the mind is negative, poisons are released into the blood, which cause more unhappiness and negativity. This is the way to failure, frustration and disappointment. It’s only you who can overcome from Thought Attack (Negative Thinking.) Just think your are the Creation Of almighty. SUCCESS MANTRA - IT'S WITHIN YOU
Working your way to success? Here are a few tips that could aid you in the rise:
• Visualize your way to success
• Be positive that you will succeed
• Anticipate that success is not too far when faced with a task that seems daunting always picture yourself as having succeeded in finishing it well.
Positive picture in your mind will go a long way in building your confidence levels. Never visualize failure.
Banish all thoughts of failure and tune your thoughts towards a successful end. Your task may be anything - it could be cleaning your cupboard, your first solo drive, an interview…. . Positive visualization is bound to put you in the right direction.
A word of caution: While visualization is crucial, what is equally necessary is actually working towards your goal. Remember, fate supports those who work hard. Attitude and thoughts do not change overnight. Just think Positive in your mind, Heart & Soul and make a habit of think + Ve. Don`t ever try – I want to Do but always try for I love to Do.

2 comments:

trust said...

As you think so shall life bring you what you think about the most, so you better be thinking good thoughts. If your life seems full of bad things, you have no one else to blame. Check your thoughts very cafefully.

bapi said...

ur right .